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Do you want to make big change in your life? Do you want to get unstuck? Stop surviving when you should be thriving?
Of course you do.
Why would you want to stay where you are, stagnant, unmoving, not progressing, unhappy?
But you do. You stay where you are. Frozen.
Because change isn’t easy.
Its intimidating and scary and away from the “comfortable” life you have been building.
I say comfortable not because I think being stuck is comfortable. I say comfortable because its easier to stay the same. Its easier to sit back and wait for things to happen to you. Its easier to stay stuck than it is to get unstuck. Thriving isn’t easy to maintain. It takes work. It takes dedication to yourself. It takes a mindset of always moving forward, bettering yourself, challenging yourself, falling down and getting back up again, failing but continuing and progressing.
Change is hard, but so incredibly far from impossible.
The most important thing that you must do is take action.
I’m going to say that one more time for good measure:
That’s where it starts.
So I have put together a list of 10 steps (plus an extra bonus step) that you can take to move you towards thriving.
They aren’t simple steps. They’re not something you can do in an hour, or a day, or even a month. But they are a start. And if you stick with the steps (you might do them in order, but keep coming back to one here and there) you will change.
Your life will change.
You will thrive.
You can also download my FREE checklist. It contains these steps plus additional concrete action-steps that you can take (or begin working on) right away.
CHOOSE. Set your intention to put YOU at the top of your to-do list. To make YOU a priority and to choose an aspect of your life that you want to change. Make this change the focus of your positive energy. Your intention is powerful. If you set your intention to make change in your life, change will happen. Intention is not sitting back and waiting. Intention is taking steps towards thriving every day, no matter how small. So set your intention for change. Set your intention to thrive. Set your intention to no longer stay the same and to get unstuck.
DESIRE. Explore what it is that you want in your life. Sometimes you have to figure out what it is you DON’T want first in order to hone in on what you DO want. Unfortunately, sometimes what we don’t want is much more easily accessible to our minds than what we do want. When I ask clients what they want, often they answer that they do not know, but figuring out what it is that you do want will attract it to you. You will recognize it when you see it, which will instigate action.
PUSH. Set goals. You might already have a goal in mind, or you might have a few that have been bouncing around for awhile, or you might not even know where to start, but goal setting is extremely important. It keeps your change at the forefront of your mind. It gives you the ability to see progress. It keeps you focused.
DISCOVER. Explore what’s underneath your surface. That sounds vague, but it has to be, because generally, there is SO MUCH underneath what we show the world: beliefs, patterns of thinking, previous experience, what our parents believed, core values, obstacles, etc. This step is a HUGE one and tends to be the most intimidating. It can uncover pain, anger, hurt, sadness, and every other “emotion we would like to avoid.” So we often avoid it. Don’t. You need to figure out what makes you tick, what has gotten you stuck in the first place, what has contributed to your mindset/beliefs. Because once you understand it, you can start giving yourself a little credit for making it this far, for doing what you needed to do to survive. And once you understand it, you can move on from it, develop the skills to thrive and create change in your life.
ACKNOWLEDGE & VALIDATE. Acknowledge your feelings and recognize them as valid, which to some might sound silly, but to most, is something really hard to do. We often stuff our feelings and let them go by unacknowledged. When we do name our feelings, we may often tell ourselves not to feel the way we are feeling or that these feelings may be wrong. This doesn’t mean that your actions are always right, but the feelings behind them are real to you, so allow them to be real. Acknowledge that they are there because unacknowledged feelings tend to grow, tend to lash out at you because they desperately want to be acknowledged and validated.
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Take action now. Don’t wait.
RELEASE. Let go of your previous experiences, thoughts, feelings, etc. that are holding you back from achieving what you want in life. You have discovered what some of these are in the Discover step. Release any past hurts, anger, beliefs about yourself and others. Those are the things that usually hold us back from change.
LOVE & ACCEPT. Love and accept YOU. You may be wondering why it’s all the way down here as step #7 and not #1. This can be a loaded topic for most people and rushing into it can be overwhelming. This can only be approached with understanding of oneself and acknowledgement, which you have explored in the previous steps. But loving yourself is the upmost importance. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t believe that you deserve to thrive, you won’t believe that change is possible, so you will not thrive and you will not change. Accept the parts of you that are hard to accept, the parts of you that you avoid, the parts of you that you feel other avoid. This doesn’t mean that you don’t want to change them, but accept yourself as an imperfect being, but so incredibly perfect as well.
PROMOTE. Put yourself out there and make your intentions known. Its about taking the action steps towards reaching your goals and holding yourself accountable. Building your belief in yourself. Being vulnerable. Failing and getting back up again and again.
THANK. Live in a constant state of gratitude. Be thankful for your progress, no matter how small that progress might feel right now, it is progress. Thank yourself for even working through this checklist because that means you are motivated to push yourself towards a more thriving you. Be thankful for everything. When you fill your life with gratitude, you feel joy. How could you not? When you are in a constant state of gratitude and awe of what is going on around you it is hard to see the hard stuff. Its still there and we’re not ignoring it, but taking the time to feel gratitude can give you the energy to tackle the hard stuff.
SUSTAIN. Develop momentum and keep these good vibes of self-development rolling. Even though you’re doing great work, often when obstacles or challenges arise, you may fall back into our survival patterns again. You want to be ready to conquer what lies ahead of you, even the unforeseen. You want to fortify your strength so that when these challenges do arise, you have the skills to manage them. So keep using the steps. Notice when you need to return to a specific step. Notice when you are struggling and acknowledge it. Its ok to struggle when you are working towards change. Just don’t stop. Don’t ever stop.
INVIGORATE. Find your passion. And if you already have a passion, fill your life with it. Immerse yourself in this passion. As you will hear me say time and time again, life without passion is not living. Life without passion is not thriving, its surviving.
And I have something else you might like…
Introducing the NEW Thrive Workbook!!
My brand new Thrive workbook walks you through all 11 of the steps from the Thrive checklist (download here for FREE) and offers guiding questions to get you critically thinking about key areas of your life.
It’s not easy, just like self improvement, and the questions are challenging, but if you go through each step, it will bring you one step closer to thriving.
If not a giant leap.
And you want to take a giant leap towards thriving, am I right?!
I’m going to guess that I’m right on track.
Act now and you will be one step closer to being the person you desire to be.
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